How to Stop Repeating the Same Mistakes in Life
Have you ever felt like no matter how much you try, something is holding you back from changing your habits, improving your relationships, or stepping into your highest potential? You’re not alone.
What’s Really Stopping You From Changing?
We live in a world obsessed with self-improvement. There are books, podcasts, YouTube channels, and courses that promise to help you become a better version of yourself. But what if I told you that it’s not more information you need, but a deeper understanding of what’s already within you?
The truth is, most people don’t change because they’re not getting to the root of why they behave the way they do. As Wizard Liz and other self-love thought leaders like the Relationship Guru point out, lasting change doesn’t come from willpower or forcing—it comes from healing, awareness, and self-love.
1. You’re Addicted to Your Identity
One of Wizard Liz’s most powerful messages is this: You’re not changing because you’re addicted to who you think you are.
Your current identity—”I’m not good with money,” “I attract the wrong partners,” “I’m too emotional,” “I never follow through”—is something you’ve repeated so often, you now believe it as fact. These beliefs become part of your subconscious programming, and your brain fights to maintain that identity even when you consciously want to change.
Solution: Awareness is key. Start to observe the narratives you tell yourself. Every time you say something limiting, stop and reframe it. For example, instead of “I never follow through,” say “I’m learning to become someone who sees things through.”
2. You’re Operating From Unhealed Wounds
Self-sabotage often stems from unresolved emotional pain. The Relationship Self-Love Guru often emphasizes that when we operate from unhealed wounds, we subconsciously recreate patterns that feel familiar—even if they’re painful.
This might show up as:
- Choosing partners who mirror the emotional unavailability of a parent
- Staying in jobs where you’re undervalued
- Sabotaging opportunities because you don’t feel worthy
Solution: Healing is the foundation of transformation. This doesn’t mean you have to be “perfect” to move forward, but you do need to be honest with yourself about where you’ve been hurt and how that pain is still affecting your behavior.
3. You’re Not Practicing True Self-Love
Wizard Liz talks a lot about the difference between surface-level self-care and real self-love. Lighting a candle or taking a bubble bath feels good—but real self-love is about doing what’s best for your future self.
That might mean:
- Saying no when it’s uncomfortable
- Letting go of people who drain you
- Committing to your goals even when motivation fades
Solution: Start asking yourself, “What would someone who loves themselves do?” This question can rewire your actions and help you align with the version of yourself you’re trying to become.
4. You’re Waiting for Motivation Instead of Creating Discipline
Another trap? Waiting until you “feel like it.” Whether it’s working out, journaling, or launching your dream project, most people wait for the perfect moment to act. But that moment rarely comes.
Both Wizard Liz and the Relationship Guru agree: Discipline is a higher form of self-love. It’s showing up for yourself consistently, not just when it’s easy.
Solution: Start small. Create one non-negotiable habit that supports your growth. Maybe it’s 5 minutes of journaling in the morning or a 10-minute walk after work. The goal is to train your brain to trust that you’ll show up.
5. You’re Afraid of Losing the Familiar
Change is uncomfortable. Even if your current life isn’t satisfying, it’s familiar—and familiarity feels safe.
According to Wizard Liz, a huge block to change is the fear of what you might lose: relationships, identity, comfort. But what you’re really losing is the version of yourself that settled. And that’s a good thing.
Solution: Normalize discomfort. Growth doesn’t feel safe—it feels like stretching. Remind yourself that discomfort is evidence of progress.
6. You’re Consuming More Than You’re Creating
In the digital age, it’s easy to become a self-help junkie. You read all the books, follow all the gurus, watch all the motivational videos—but never apply what you learn.
Liz often says, “You don’t need another podcast episode. You need to do something.”
Solution: Start creating. Create a new routine, create boundaries, create space for reflection. Apply the knowledge instead of hoarding it.
7. You Don’t Believe You’re Worthy of a Better Life
This is the biggest block of all.
Deep down, many people don’t change because they don’t truly believe they’re deserving of more. They think happiness, abundance, and love are for other people—but not them.
The Relationship Guru frequently speaks about this: You only accept the love you think you deserve. The same goes for success, peace, and joy.
Solution: Worthiness isn’t something you earn—it’s something you remember. You were born worthy. Reconnect with that truth daily through affirmations, gratitude, and speaking to yourself with kindness.
Final Thoughts: The Truth About Change
Change isn’t something that happens to you—it’s something you choose daily. It’s less about becoming someone new and more about returning to who you’ve always been beneath the wounds, stories, and fears.
The reason you haven’t changed yet isn’t because you’re lazy or broken. It’s because your inner world needs healing, compassion, and structure. And once you give yourself that? Real transformation begins.
Call to Action
If this post resonated with you, try this:
- Write down the 3 limiting beliefs you want to let go of
- Write 3 new affirmations that support who you’re becoming
- Commit to one small daily habit that aligns with your future self
You’re not behind. You’re just beginning—and that’s a beautiful place to be.
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